You First in Relationships
When I say, “You first in relationships,” I’m not flashing a green light for selfishness and bratty behavior. I’m talking about the importance of being emotionally right with yourself before you can...
View ArticleBeingLOVEDIs: What Does it Mean to be Loved? by Jennine Estes, MFT
Love is something we experience. Being loved and the feeling that comes with it does not have one definition or one encounter. Describing a feeling of being loved for each individual differs from...
View ArticleHow do you talk to people? Try a softer tone. by Rick Hanson, PhD
In the piece below, Rick Hanson, PhD, looks at communication – and the importance of tone awareness in your relationships… When our kids were little, I’d come home from work wanting some peace after...
View ArticleGet out the Broom…8 Ways to Spring Clean Your Marriage
Having an hour more day light and feeling spring in the air (in Northern California anyway), I can’t help but think about the meaning of spring. For many it’s a time of renewal and recharge, a...
View ArticleHow to Repair a Relationship Rupture by Linda Graham, MFT
Researchers have discovered that even in “good enough” close relationships, we spend about one-third of the time in actual relating (attuned connection), about one-third in rupture (mis-attuned or...
View ArticleResilience Through Creating a Circle of Support by Linda Graham, MFT
Refuge simply means a safe, supportive place to be when we are fragile or confused, a safe place to cry or rant as long as we need to, or somewhere to wait patiently until a course of action begins to...
View Article10 Ways to Betray Your Relationship (Other Than Infidelity)
Intimate relationships thrive on emotional safety. The more each partner feels they can turn towards each other, seek shelter in each other from the storms of life, the greater the security. When I...
View ArticleBoundaries and Limit Setting in Relationships by Linda Graham, MFT
Developmental psychologists have found that the human brain is capable of distinguishing between self and others by six months of age. The capacity of theory of mind takes that development further as...
View Article6 Ways to Get the Most of Being Single This Summer
If you are wishing you were in a relationship, the summertime can be a downer lamenting the fact you don’t have a romantic partner to enjoy it with. Rather than dwell on the negative of your situation...
View ArticleNeuroscience and You: What Does Brain Science Have to do with your Emotional...
I am contemplative as the redesign of The Toolbox at LisaKiftTherapy.com continues to be underway and the re-launch soon to come. As I sort through the slimming, paring and streamlining of the...
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